Having Less Sex Recently? A Sexologist Shares Why
!function(n){if(!window.cnx){window.cnx={},window.cnx.cmd=[];var t=n.createElement('iframe');t.display='none',t.onload=function(){var n=t.contentWindow.document,c=n.createElement('script');c.src='//cd.connatix.com/connatix.player.js',c.setAttribute('async','1'),c.setAttribute('type','text/javascript'),n.body.appendChild(c)},n.head.appendChild(t)}}(document);(new Image()).src = 'https://capi.connatix.com/tr/si?token=8b034f64-513c-4987-b16f-42d6008f7feb';cnx.cmd.push(function(){cnx({"playerId":"8b034f64-513c-4987-b16f-42d6008f7feb","mediaId":"8d845a58-7edd-44e7-be89-7fa73c337dc8"}).render("691efb30e4b00ed8a94f32c2");});Some research suggests that UK adults’ exercise levels may drop by as much as a third in the cooler months. A combination of darker nights, cooler temps, and even dropping vitamin D levels might contribute to the lethargy. And according to Yahoo! Life, you might be less “active” in the bedroom around this time of year, too.Seasonal sex drive dips are common in the winter months, licenced sexologist and relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, told HuffPost UK. “While it’s not the case for everyone, many people experience a decreased sex drive during the cold months and find it problematic, especially for the relationship,” she shared. “And this is not only anecdotal – there’s actually a medical review done on males on the topic published in the National Library of Medicine that concluded that we actually do have less sex drive during the dark and cold months.” Why does our sex drive take a dip in winter?Roos shared that there’s no single issue which leads to the cold-weather dip. “First off, the lack of sunlight, especially in the north, makes people less energised and affects our hormones, which makes us more tired, and... less interest[ed] in sex,” she stated. “The body has a tendency to go on ‘save mode’ when it’s dark and cold, which shows by many wanting to snuggle up on the sofa rather than initiate passion.” And even though you might associate festive holidays with fun, Roos said that in reality, the period “often leads to deadlines at work, logistic problems, tons of places to be at and economic stress”. That can get us out of the mood, too.“Sex drive is very sensitive towards stress, as it makes us de-prioritise everything that’s not crucial for survival until we have tackled what stresses us,” she explained. “And lastly – hectic periods make us lose each other in the relationship as it comes so much in between, so the holidays, which should be a time for love and getting closer, paradoxically slip us apart because of all the hustle. “And less intimacy outside of bed also leads to less intimacy in bed.” How can you get your sex life back on track in winter? Luckily, Roos told us, there are many ways to bring some life back into your bedroom in the colder months.“The first thing you must do is to change [your] mindset,” she stated.“During summer, the lust often comes quite by itself, but during the winter, you need to work more for it – so prepare to put in some more time and energy into ‘maintaining’ your sex life.” One way to do this, she added, is to “create small moments of intimacy.“Sex doesn’t need to start in bed, but can be initiated during the day with a text message, a long hug and a passionate kiss before leaving for work, or by just holding hands and having more eye contact. These small acts of physical love build lust.” It’s also important not to place too much pressure on yourselves. “Instead of thinking that you should have sex, focus on just being close. That tends to make the pressure go out the door, which gives room for spontaneous sex.” And if you’re in a truly stressful period, scheduling sex is always an option, the sexologist continued. Again, don’t try to force it: try to plan a romantic, intimate time rather than prescribing sex, and simply see what happens.Roos continued: “An active lifestyle is also important. Try to take walks when it’s sunny outside, do some exercise, or just leave home for some hobbies. That gives energy, which also boosts lust!“And last but not least, talk about how you’re feeling. By opening up with your feelings, needs and boundaries, lots of the anxiety and pressure go away. This openness helps to relax, something that’s a big ingredient in a high desire!” Related...Women Over 50 Reveal What Sex Is Actually Like For Them'I'm A Sexologist – Hypnosis Gave Me My First Touch-Free Orgasms'I'm A Sexologist – Here's Why Sex Is So Much Better (And Wilder) On Holiday
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Having Less Sex Recently? A Sexologist Shares Why
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